One Person’s Opinion…on the topic of Mother-Daughter Wardrobe Conflicts
By Iris Ruth Pastor
When mothers and daughters are shopping for their daughter’s Bat Mitzvah weekend wardrobe, what causes the biggest conflict and what are some guidelines to follow when it comes to good taste and modesty?
We asked Rande Weissman, co-owner of GirlTrends, her point of view:
“A great source of conflict is when parents, especially moms, don’t adequately consider their daughters’ own style and sense of fashion. Although it often comes from a positive place, namely a parent wanting to treat their daughter to a special dress that they – the parent – likes, the daughter sometimes sees this as a rejection of her own style or an attempt by her mom or dad to control her and what she wears.
There are a lot of appropriate options out there. Several years ago, you’d see mostly little suits that made some of the more petite girls look like they were playing dress up. Manufacturers are getting away from that look. Now we girls can choose dresses with coordinating jackets (an update of the suiting look), dresses alone, and even skirts with sweaters or dressy tops. As far as being bima-appropriate, aside from a girl’s shoulders being covered, party dresses are best saved for the reception, especially anything too sparkly, shiny, poufy or revealing (meaning low cut, strapless and/ or too short). A good choice for the bima is a dress that is either a solid color or color-blocked. Solid colors photograph beautifully. The impact on the bima of an ivory of white dress is also an elegant look that really highlights the beauty of the tallit.”
What are your thoughts about the latest Bar or Bat Mitzvah fashions? And do you worry about letting your kids travel the Bar and Bat Mitzvah party circuit in the clothes they want to wear? Leave a comment below and let us know what you think!
Rande Weissman, and her business partner, Diane Slakter, are co-owners of GirlTrends, located at 1732 South Dale Mabry, in Carriage Trade Plaza in South Tampa. Opened in February, 2011, the store is geared to a tween/teen girl, starting with a girls’ size 10 and continuing through junior sizes.